Why am I single?

So you are twenty something, have a fantastic career, a great bunch of friends, a personality that is second to none and look hot as hell (most of the time – well so you think!). Everything in life seems perfect yet you know you are approaching an age where children and marriage are no longer in the distant future!

You ask yourself time and time again why it is so difficult to meet Mr/Miss Right? This post should hopefully answer and conclude why this is the case. Let’s take a look at some of the answers to your single status.

1) You’re not that hot …

You are not in a league of your own! If you think you will attract hot celebrity-like individuals, you need to wake up and take along hard look in the mirror. The problem is, psychologically you see yourself five times more beautiful than you appear to be in real life. So perhaps you just need to be a little more open to getting to know people who are not that attractive. Truth is many people are not very photogenic. They appear much better in real life, so don’t be so dismissive.

2) Your dating profile sucks!

Would you really date yourself if you saw your profile? Dating profiles, nine times of out of ten suck! You are too serious about life,your picture is in the wrong lighting, it’s not your best side and the list goes on. I will write a future post on profiles that will get the attention ofthe guy/girl of your dreams. Until then I’ll let you wait eagerly in anticipation!

3) Shut the hell up … You talk too much!

This is in fact a personal reflection! I do some times have verbal diarrhoea, I just can’t help it. I love to talk and especially in a situation where it’s slightly nerve racking. No one wants an awkward silence,so I overcome that by motor mouthing. I recently went to an AsianD8 speed dating event, where in the three minutes I was given for each guy, I continuously decided to talk about myself. There were even a few mentions at the end about how much I actually talked about myself and did not even ask one question about the guy! Oops - lesson learnt!

4) You’re arrogant, over confident and intimidating!

Something I recently have realised is that first impressions of a confident and outgoing individual can often be perceived as quite negative. Many people don’t give second chances, (more their loss than mine!). Another turn off is the whole chasing game. It’s pretty childish to be honest. If you are serious about getting to know someone don’t hide away, showyou are interested. If you don’t there are plenty of others who will! Nevertheless, you will know if someone is worth the time too. If there is no flow in texting/calling each other – move on. If they cannot keep your interest –move on. If conversation is dull and with no banter – move on!

5) You've had bad past experiences

We've all had heartbreaks (boo hoo). It didn’t kill us, it made us stronger (blah blah). Then why do you still become so defensive and guarded every time a new potential walks in? Take the time to judge and go with your instinct. If you acknowledge that not every girl/guy is like the last, you will overcome your past predicting your future.

So, to conclude, why am I single? Simple answer – you just haven’t met the right person. However, you can definitely help your own chances by giving other people a chance. Make the most out of your profile –market yourself as datable. Shut up and listen, because life is not just about you! Don’t play too hard to get and finally, don’t let your past predict your future.