First Date

The perfect first date is hard to come by, especially when you have high expectations! Let’s face it, a first date can be pretty awkward, especially if you have never spoken before or worse yet, are doing it blind! That moment when you first see them, if my heart doesn't skip a beat or if I can’t feel my blood pressure rise, I just know he isn't ‘the one’. So what else really makes or breaks a first date? Here are 10 key factors I look out for on a first date:

1) Confidence

The way in which a guy carries himself for me is a major factor for attraction. Confidence should border arrogance but not cross the line.

2) Dress sense

Clothing is majorly important. If a guy doesn’t dress well, it’s automatically a turn off. What is dressing well? For me it’s dressing with a sense of swagger and unique style.

3) Date location

It’s important to meet at a location where it’s slightly quiet so you can converse. Lighting is also important, as after work I tend to look slightly like the dog’s dinner, so the dimmer the better! Also, guys who make locations more convenient for them to get home from can do one, as I’m not stupid. Meet half way or accommodate for the lady and be a gent!

4) Mannerism

Guys who spit when they talk, have an uncontrollable spasm or come across really eager and excited just don’t do it for me!

5) Conversation

Conversation should flow without the awkward silences. If you lose my interest, I will be looking at my phone (trying to get one of the girls to bail me out), have my head in the menu or be looking around the room! Keeping my eye contact should be a sign that I am interested

6) Attraction

This is imperative! You need to be hot in my eyes, like a Bradley Cooper or Paul Walker type. A chiselled jaw line, tall and body to die for usually has my attention for the best part of 10 minutes, then the personality factor kicks in.

7) Personality

Looks without personality will never last. Don’t try and over impress, as that’s usually clear to see! Be yourself and I am sure if I am the right girl I will be falling for you in no time!

8) Banter

I love it when guys mock me and make smart comments and digs. There needs to be humour and laughter or my life would be as boring as hell! I like to think I’m a funny girl, well actually I think I am hilarious at times and this needs to be two ways! I am not here to entertain you … I want to be entertained too!

9) Interests

If you don’t fit the bill in coolness with interests (football is a must) that make me want to get to know you better, then the first date is where this ends I’m afraid.

10) Chemistry

This is the difficult one; it’s the je ne sais quoi. It’s something you can’t quite put your finger on, but you know when it is there. It’s just in the air and you can feel it.

Now you know a little about what is going through my head during a first date! Do you have any other key factors you analyse other than the above? Leave a comment below or hit me up on Twitter @abst4r.